Every person on earth must have loved somebody deeply at some point in their life. However, many of them would have faced disappointments in love too. The lives of many people turn topsy-turvy when a love affair fails. Many struggle to cope with their life and may even feel that they are worthless. Some may find solace in alcohol too.
Feeling hurt and lost is a natural reaction to abandonment. Memories of the relationship will also haunt such people.
However, failure in love should never affect your life. You have to make yourself believe that nobody can replace you in this world. Disappointment in love is not the end of everything. Here are ten ways to overcome such a hurdle.
Cry oneself out
Man is an emotional animal and would feel extremely sad at being spurned in love. You may want to cry and share your feelings with someone else. If you don’t do this, your thoughts will multiply and lead to severe mental tension.
However, if you cry your heart out, that is the best means of getting relief. Feel the pain yourself and allow it to gradually vanish.
Remember all the sweet moments spent with your loved ones and the dreams you dreamt together. Then cry till all the tears dry up.
Expel him or her from your heart
There is no need any more to carry in your heart the person who abandoned you. Once, you loved that person deeply and you also suffered much due to that love. From now on, the person who has walked out of your life should have no place at all in your heart.
Speak to your friends over your loss and share your agony. They will certainly offer solace and extend support to you. Their words will boost your confidence. Remember the face of each person who is with you.
Set out on a short trip
Take a short break from your routine. The best way to do this is to undertake a short trip. Plan a journey with friends to a picturesque location which is peaceful and quiet. You can also visit the beach or go trekking. If travelling solo, always choose a destination that is crowded. When there are always large crowds around you, the mind will be free of depressing thoughts. Enjoy such trips like you are seeing the world for the first time.
Say ‘no’ to worries
Avoid being alone engaged in thoughts. Do not idle away your time. Depressing thoughts were abandoned the day you cried your heart out. Convince yourself that you do not need those who do not need you. The thought that those who really love you are still around will make you feel better.
The past is dead and gone
Sometimes you may be curious about what the person who had hurt you in love is engaged in. You may search the social media or enquire with friends about the old love’s whereabouts and present activities. This has to be totally avoided. The former lover may be enjoying with friends or having a good time with family. None of such activities should concern you anymore.
Engage in some activity
Avoid idling away your time. Always be engaged in one activity or the other. Give full attention to the task at hand. Also take up a new venture and complete it successfully. This will give you a comfortable feeling as well as happiness.
Break up, clean up
All items having any connection with your lost lover have to be removed, including gifts, pictures and messages. If any of the passwords you use has any link with that person, change it as soon as possible. Also, delete the mobile number of your former sweetheart from your contacts. Separation should be total.
But if you come face to face with that person, do not ignore him or her. Anger or dejection has no place in such a situation. Speak to your former lover in a cool manner.
Good friends are an asset
Never avoid people, but interact only with those who pass on positive energy. Spend your time with friends who have a sense of humour. If they can share your pain and point out your good aspects, all the more better.
Start a fresh innings
There are rejected people who immediately start another love affair supposedly for taking revenge on those who cheated them. By bringing a new person into their life, they may feel triumphant over their former lover. But wait for some time before taking such a step. This is because time is a great healer. Let the mind be calm and peaceful before making plans for a new relationship.
A lucky escape
If the rejection has occurred before marriage, One should be relieved that a big tragedy has been averted. Had the couple entered into a wedlock such a relationship might have witnessed daily squabbles between them. This could have led to ugly situations. A break-up can be seen as good opportunity for retrospection and learning, which can ultimately provide valuable lessons for the life ahead.