Space for your partner: The secret mantra for a happy relationship

Love should not be perceived as possessiveness. Image courtesy: eldar nurkovic/shutterstock

Undoubtedly, love is a powerful and heady feeling that brings two individuals together. But a number of factors play a pivotal role in making a relationship successful and the most vital one is the need to respect and recognize other person’s individual space. The practice of showering the partner with all the love and care, and hovering over the person throughout the day can be nauseating and will lead to a rather toxic relationship. Remember to value your partner's personality, liberty and privacy, and understand the need to respect his/her space. For a committed relationship, it is better not to intrude into your partner's privacy as space is a positive force in romantic life.

Here are a few tips to bear in mind on how to give much-needed space to your partner:

Phone calls and text messages

It is normal to leave a text message to your loved one when you have that missing feeling. But mind you, don't get irrationally concerned if you don't get an immediate response from the other end, especially if your partner is busy at work. The failure to respond should not trigger unwanted thoughts of insecurity and never jump to a conclusion that the partner is ignoring you and giving priority to job. But on the other hand, your inability to understand the situation can be a big turn-off for your loved one. You should never insist on your partner to reply to our calls or messages if you want a smooth relationship.

Family and friends

It's quite natural for your partner to spend time with his/her friends or relatives and don’t get offended by your partner's social circles. Make it a point not to demand his/her excessive attention or pass aggressive statements like "who is dearer to you, me or your friends?". Positive thinking stems from the realization that everyone has the right to socialize with friends and have a great time. Keep in mind that a good relationship is not just about love and romance.

Difficult times

If you are feeling depressed or passing through a tough phase, there are myriad ways to bust stress. For some, that healing touch can come from the comforting words of a close friend, but for others, like introverts, solitude can bring solace.  It is important to know the mental makeup of your partner and allow the person to choose the way he/she is comfortable with.

Pursue your hobby

The best way to respect your partner's space is by taking up new interests. Indulge in your hobbies instead of being an overbearing partner. It's great fun to spend time apart and keep yourself busy with art work, dance, learning a language, or even getting employed instead of poking your nose into your partner's nitty-gritty and spoiling the relationship.

Give way to open conversation

Make sure to open up your mind while engaging in a meaningful conversation with the partner and succinctly share mutual dreams and desires, and speak your heart out. The better you understand the partner, the more you will be able to give space to each other. Love should not be perceived as possessiveness as it is a thread that holds together trust, a sense of sharing and understanding.

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