In the past, being a parent was considered the most amazing phase in a person’s life. However, many now step into the world of parenthood, worried and anxious about how to raise their children. Parents are constantly concerned about the kind of behaviour and parenting mistakes that would adversely affect the growth and development of their children. Their anxiety goes through the roof when they welcome more than one child. Despite being careful and conscious, you are likely to make a few parenting mistakes. Meanwhile, here are some parenting mistakes to avoid.

Over criticism
It is alright to point out the child’s mistakes, but constantly criticising them would be a blow to their confidence. Therefore, it is better to address the issue gently rather than being harsh and overly critical. Meanwhile, do not forget to appreciate them when they do a good deed.

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Ignoring their emotions
Many people do not think that children also have emotions. They have feelings as strong and intense as grown-ups; it could even be stronger than our own emotions. Children may get sad or angry. They will grow apart from you if you fail to pay heed to their emotions. Finding time for your children, listening to them and accepting their emotions will help them grow into emotionally mature individuals.

Overbearing parents and micromanaging
Parents should indeed have some control over their kids. However, it shouldn’t be something that would ruin their personality. Constantly monitoring and pestering them isn’t good parenting. Instead of micromanaging, it would be wiser to let them make decisions in matters that suit their age. Give them a chance to learn from their mistakes.

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Compared with other kids
This is a challenge faced by most children in all age groups. They are constantly compared to their siblings, neighbours or friends. But parents hardly realise that such comparisons cause severe mental stress in children. It would make the children depressed and may even cause them to feel envy and hatred towards their siblings. So, it is better to refrain from making such comparisons and to accept each child for his/her unique capabilities.

Severe punishment
Hitting the children or any kind of physical punishment will not only hurt their bodies but also their minds. Help them understand their mistakes in a gentle manner and assist them in improving. This will bring them closer to you emotionally.
Stress to be perfect
Forcing your child to participate in various school competitions and win prizes would cause them mental stress. Even if they fail, try to appreciate their effort.

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Blaming
Instead of constantly blaming the child, try to drive them away from flaws gently. Only then would they accept their mistakes and make changes.

Avoid these parenting mistakes if you have more than one child. Overprotective parenting and ignoring their mistakes out of love may lead to adverse side effects on the children’s development. It is the responsibility of parents to protect their children, but children should also learn that there will be consequences for their actions. Pouring your energy and resources entirely into your child, while ignoring your own health and well-being, is also a significant parenting mistake.       

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